We Are too Hard on Ourselves

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99% of the time we are too hard on ourselves. We critic and judge ourselves with a harder look than anyone else. And 99% of the times we’re not even that bad.

That harder look can sometimes stop us from truly enjoying our accomplishments and moving forward.

I believe the reason why we are so hard on ourselves than we are to others is that we don’t quite believe in ourselves. We doubt that we are capable of doing what ever it is we are doing, and we feel that even if we do it, it won’t be that good. I guess it’s part of the human condition, to doubt yourself, and in someways i can be a good thing. I can teach you where to improve and what to do differently.

If you think your the best in the world you won’t learn anything. But if you think your the worst in the world you’ll never show the world what you can do, and you’ll never get anywhere.

It’s a matter of balance, somewhere between the self-loading and the gloating there’s a place where you can be critic of what you do but still be proud of it.

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One thought on “We Are too Hard on Ourselves

  1. LOL Well, this explains your comment on my post! I agree that there has to be a balance…turning a blind eye to glaring flaws results in mediocre work.

    Knowing what you are actually capable of at any moment helps—we will always have limitations, but the area bounded by those limitations can grow (kinda like the universe…bounded, but ever expanding!) and never comparing yourself to others, but only to your own previous achievements assists in a gentle growth.

    Also, self-criticism should be specific…not a general putting-down, as in “I’m terrible!” or “nothing I do is any good!” but identify what it is that could have been done better, and confront the failing. I think of Max Ehrmann’s Desiderata, and take him as a guide:

    “If you compare yourself to others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater, and lesser persons than yourself….

    Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself….And whether or not it is clear to you, doubtless the universe is unfolding as it should.”

    Cheers for visiting my post, and I’m happy I followed you back here… 🙂 xx,N.

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